She in 20s

By - Nishtha Pathak , Content Writer & Social Media Manager

Exactly, no matter how confident and assertive you call yourself, when you hear your man say he doesn’t want you to do that thing because to him it is not correct; you are crestfallen.

Am I dependent on him? Well, no.
Am I doing something that is ethically wrong? Certainly not.
Will this affect our relationship? (wondering……)

And this one question changes the course of a river. The free flowing river, the spirit of a woman is never meant to be kept in bound. Yet when you do this, eventually the most unnaturally expected disaster happens; one fine day your patience breaks its banks and there’s devastation all around.
Simply put, you want to prevent this disastrous flood, speak when he wants you to agree on something that your inner self disagrees with.
Things which can be as simple as being picky about which friends you should hang out with; how long are you supposed to spend time with your family or buddies; what type of clothes should you wear when going out with him. These might not sound like a big deal initially, although they will be scratching your poise at that moment too.
Beware! You will not even realise when these little scratches will leave deep wounds on your self-confidence and turn you into either a coarse woman with a pessimistic attitude towards everything; or an unsociable zipped up dame without any viewpoint. And you certainly don’t want to be any of this.
It might affect your relationship a little in the start (maybe more than a little) but if you don’t tell him your discomfort; he will simply stop taking your advice or even considering the part of your disagreement.

There’s another advantage to this, not only will you find your voice but if he still stresses that you must listen and abide by his terms; you also get the signal that it is time to make him realize he doesn’t need to babysit you.
We have seen our mothers and aunts listen to their husbands like a sheep and somewhere the feeling has nurtured in us that being a woman we need to be the understanding and patient one. So, you choose to let go off this uncomfortable feeling just telling yourself it isn’t such a big deal, there are so many other important things in life to focus on.

Remember, if someone decided to adjust to the circumstances many years ago, you don’t need to do the same. Little sacrifices make a happy relationship but they should be mutual. If he let you into his life, he should also accept you exactly the way you are; that is where the chivalry of a man lies.
So if Rhett Butler hadn’t accepted Scarlett O’Hara the way she was, the world would never get to know about the woman who was stubborn, frivol and even an infidel to some.

If you have never bothered being the woman the world likes to question all the time; then why change today, just because he objected to it? Why disappear in mists of self-doubt simply because he feels insecure about you being yourself?

Life in 20s - 05:29

I Feel Numb When He Says, “I don’t think I want you to do this.”

By - Nishtha Pathak , Content Writer & Social Media Manager Exactly, no matter how confident and assertive you call yourself, whe...

By - Pracheta Thakur , Web Content Writer

For a woman, periods or menstruation is a very vital part of life which completes her physically. It transforms a girl to a lady as she starts to know herself in mature way. The four days journey comes with some common problems like abdominal cramps, mood swings, and acidity. These cramps generally take place in the lower abdomen, thighs or lower back area. Once upon a time women were completely isolated in those days; but in today’s busy schedule there is no time for pain or cramps, especially when she is 20s. Just put some easy changes in your daily schedule and say goodbye to menstrual cramps as well as harmful pain killers also. Let’s have a look and plan to enjoy your womanhood:

Drink Plenty of water:

Yah, it’s true. Water helps to hydrate yourself which will save you from cramps or irritation. Dehydration worsens irritation and menstrual cramps in your pelvic areas.

Organic Tea in your diet chart :

Replace your regular tea with a cup of Organic tea. According to professionals, high level of phenolic is there in green tea which helps to protect you from menstrual cramps. Add few drops lemon juice in green tea to refresh your mood in early morning.
You can also try chamomile tea to relax yourself and regularize your menstrual cycle. It also helps to reduce stress and anxiety which helps to avoid irregular periods and cramps. You can try it with hot feet bath for better result in those days.

Add Papaya in regular diet :

Papaya has powerful anti-inflammatory agent that helps to get rid from menstrual cramps in women. There are so many nutrients like iron, Vitamins A and C, Calcium and carotene in papaya to make smooth the uterine walls and ease the muscle fibres which reduce menstrual cramps. Raw papaya comprises lot of heat that arouses the estrogen level in the body to make your period regular.

Drink water in Copper Vessel in empty stomach:

If you are suffering from anaemia which causes irregular and heavy bleeding, it is for you. Copper is an essential mineral which helps to make your iron level up and normalises its movement in blood vessels. Wash a copper vessel properly and store water for overnight as you can consume it in early morning. It improves the cardio vascular health and reduces hypertension.

Regular exercise and yoga:

Maybe it’s quite problematic to manage time for workout regularly, but if we want we can do. Consult with a professional yoga expert who can give the best guideline to maintain fitness. Regular workout helps to improve the function of pelvic organs and relieves menstrual irregularity and cramps.

So, don’t worry and never plan to postpone your plans just because of periods. Maintain a healthy lifestyle and say goodbye to problems.

Life in 20s - 02:53

HAVE A HAPPY PERIOD!!

By - Pracheta Thakur , Web Content Writer For a woman, periods or menstruation is a very vital part of life which completes her physi...

By - Nishtha Pathak , Content Writer & Social Media Manager

As women around the world come out with shocking revelations it seems that the 21st century is also a period chosen by skeletons to jump out of the cupboard. But it would be too hasty to say that our mothers went through the same, as homemakers or as professionals. I always believe situations cannot be applied like butter on bread; they never melt and spread evenly. The bumpy human nature along with several other factors will always affect the flavor of life.

When they quite sarcastically say, “You can never understand a woman.” The first thought to cross my mind is, you couldn’t win her confidence to let her confide into you. And the biggest advantage often portrayed in front of me as a challenge is, my being an independent woman. I still remember the words of this lady, one of boyfriend’s mother about me, “this girl is good but she is too forward.” Now being forward here means being outgoing, which BTW this is meant to be a disadvantage and so is being a woman who has stayed away from home all by herself, for a considerable point of time. And that’s when I understand why they say that a woman is another woman’s enemy.

I always believe that unless I let the society and its murky remarks affect me they can never make me feel puny. But often when it comes from the least expected sections, you are left startled. And it is often the white-collared educated lot. I know those prying eyes at all the places I have worked, either they want to be in your list of friends rather have you in their list of girls they are friends with; or they want to know who you are going around with, put in decent words ‘dating’. And the remarks are quite astonishing in both the cases. They come as, she is booked; she is too haughty; or the most demeaning ‘she is easy’.

Now, I have no offence towards these men, why have hard feelings towards the fox which couldn’t get the grapes. However, I despise the category who take pride in being friends with girls for the sake of displaying their gallantry and turning their kind green-eyed. Trust me we know it all and we know how to take advantage of this lot very well!

To my above comments a lot of men and perhaps women too will come up and say that it is too superfluous a statement. So, before I’m growled at, I would like to clarify that it doesn’t apply to everyone. I have met men and women who have amazed me with their candid attitude and big-heart. It is these folks who tell you no matter what they whisper behind your back, your life will ultimately head in the direction where you will lead it. The choice is yours, to let someone hold your reins or to make a new road that others will tread later.

While reading a series of articles where women molested by their relatives have decided to speak up after years; not to get justice for themselves but to prevent something even remotely similar happen to anyone else. Some of these narrations sent a chill through my spine; and yet it made me believe that women of this era have decided to come out of the cocoon and speak for themselves. They might have stepped out of their house long back to match shoulders with men but now you can see them giving a warning if you tried to brush their shoulders aside.

Well, it is not so bad a world. There are men with capability to revive back the liveliness of women with injured soul. Men with ability to see beyond, what a woman looks and behaves like and of course her past. Although in my opinion everyone has a past, it is just that a few are darker than others and this past does not limit itself to females. Digging the graves will only bring out skeletons, some more decayed than others.

Well, about the prominence of our haunting past, we will discuss in the next blog. Right now, feel delighted, you are born a woman God didn’t give that opportunity to so many others.